April 5, 2018

Dean Sheremet’s Daddy Files: The Announcement

Dean Sheremet is going to be a dad. It’s a lifelong dream come true but it hasn’t exactly happened the way he originally envisioned (does it ever?). As we all know and he so bravely opened up to me about, he went through a very public and painful divorce, moved to New York, put himself through culinary school and became a chef after years of supporting someone else’s career. Since then, he married again but that relationship ended with his desire to become a father. After several more attempts at love and feeling pretty rock bottom, but not giving up hope, Dean met filmmaker Vanessa Black, fell fast and… 

“Are you serious? Are you fucking serious?”

It wasn’t fear speaking, more lack of being able to convey in a proper sentence how insanely overcome with emotion I was in that moment.

It was the week of my birthday and I foolishly thought the little box on the counter was a present for me. Van was in the other room getting ready for an event. I had just walked in the door, exhausted from a day that started at 4:30 AM.

What could she be giving me in this tiny box? A gift card? A watch? Ooh, maybe cuff links, I love cuff links.

“Babe, I thought we weren’t doing gifts?”

We’d made a pact eschewing presents in favor of life experiences.

“Just open it,” she yelled from the other room.

I slowly started to unwrap the miniature box and paused, “What did you get me from Converse?”

“JUST OPEN IT!” she repeated.

I lifted the lid off to find a pair of way-too-small-for-me shoes. My male brain finally stitched together what was happening.

“Are you serious?” I asked dumbfounded.

“Yes, I’m pregnant,” she replied, nodding through the tears.

I immediately followed suit. I’d been waiting my whole life for this moment. It was completely unexpected and nothing like whatever silly fantasy I’d made up in my head. It was above and beyond any emotion I’ve ever felt in my 36 years on this earth. In this moment, I knew why I was here. My purpose on this planet. Why she and I met and fell in love. And why every thing I’d ever questioned, every pain, each rejection, failure and fortune had to happen for this be possible. In this moment, I became a father.

Dean’s Daddy Files will be a recurring feature on NNA. Follow along on his fatherhood adventure.

For more from Dean, check out some of his delicious recipes



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